page 12 it goes with out saying

Page 12

It goes without saying
Mother always listens to a man

Ever since the last shopping trip, mothers foot has been hurting. Mother thinks she has a bunion from walking too much, I say she should go to the doctors.

“If your foot is still hurting you should go to the doctors” I suggest.

“No it will go, it’s only because I walked too much. It’s made my bunion hurt”

Mother will not go to the doctors unless she is made to, which is totally frustrating as now she is compromising her walking. Mother is not very good mobility wise and now she is at more risk of falls.

“The podiatrist comes soon I will ask what they think” and that is how the situation with her foot had to be left.

For the next couple of days I did as much as I could for mother, so she did as little walking as possible. Her foot remained painful but she was adamant that the doctor was not needed.

The podiatrist came on a day that I wasn’t at mothers so when I went to see her the day after the visit…..

“He says I have gout that is why I am in so much pain” (wait a moment)

“He says, I thought you had a woman to do your feet” (I don’t believe it)

“I did but now I have a man and he said its gout and I need to go to the doctors, when can you take me” (typical mothers, a man knows best, has struck again)

“Phone them and take the next available appointment” (let’s get her foot sorted)

“But ….” Mothers about to make some excuse, right….

“Here’s the phone see what they have for today, if not tomorrow, say its urgent” (I have this assertive approach sorted now)

Mother rang and was able to get in that day. Know all I had to do was get her there. Easier said than done.

“You will need to use the walker” I said

“No I can manage on the stick or I won’t go” mothers being awkward.

Now mother always uses the walker to get down the front door step and out to the car, then I give her the stick and we go from there. A devious plan was hatching.

When we arrived at the doctors I went round to the mothers’ car door,

“Why have you got the walker, where’s my stick” demanded mother.

“I didn’t bring it as your finding it hard to walk”

“Take me home then” mother was annoyed.

“You can’t just not turn up for an appointment” mother glared at me.

“Don’t you ever do this to me again! Making a fool of me” indignant or what.

Not a word did I utter, just helped her up and walked closely by her side as we went into the doctors. Mind I was thinking, better the walker than the two of us landing on the floor.

The doctor gave her a prescription which we collected from the pharmacist and to soften her up a bit, I popped into the fish and chip shop and this time I made sure there were only enough chips for mother.


Till next time

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